Your relationship with yourself is the most important relationship in your life. And just like any relationship, it requires work to make it fulfilling and loving. One of the best things you can do to foster this is to take yourself on solo dates.
Solo dates are a way to spend quality time with yourself, which will deepen the relationship with yourself. Along the way, you will also have new experiences and memories that will make you love yourself so much more.
Dating yourself is not just for single people or something to do to pass the time while waiting for “the one”. It is something that you will have to keep doing for the rest of your life. Even when you are in a relationship or married. The solo date ideas below are meant to help you practice being with yourself in ways that feel meaningful and fun.
At-home Solo Date Ideas
Dates at home are still a very valid way to spend time with yourself. As long as you are intentional about what you are doing and you are not distracted, it’s all good. These solo date ideas help you slow down and enjoy your own company without leaving the house.
- Get your favorite snacks and have a movie marathon.
- Have an indoor picnic.
- Bake your favorite desserts and enjoy them while watching your favorite childhood movie.
- Have a self-care day where you enjoy a bubble bath, face mask, hair massage, and self-massage (wink).
- Have a candle-lit dinner with soft music playing in the background.
- Stargaze in your backyard while sipping a glass of wine.
- Have a photoshoot where you are both the star and photographer.
- Do a 1000 or 2000-piece puzzle while sipping on wine or, in my case, kombucha.
- Have a karaoke night.
- Mix cocktails and mocktails.
- Make your own scented candle or bath bomb.
Beginner Friendly
I know that going out alone in public can feel intimidating and scary. These ideas will ease you into solo dating. They will help you feel more comfortable being out by yourself.
- Go to the cinema.
- Go to the theatre and watch a play.
- Have an outdoor picnic and bring your journal and a book.
- Go to a bookstore, buy a book that catches your eye. Then go to a coffee shop and read the book.
- Go shopping.
- Attend a lecture or talk.
- Go to a silent book club.
- Grab a salad at a nearby grocery store and go to the park and people-watch.
- Go on an ice-cream date.
- Try street food from a vendor you’ve never tried.
On a Budget Ideas
Dating yourself does not have to cost an arm and a leg. You can have low-cost fun dates that still leave you feeling fulfilled.
- Have a beach day and bring a book you already own.
- Learn a new skill on YouTube.
- Attend a free community event or talk.
- Watch the sunset and journal.
- Have a solo picnic with food you already have.
- Try a free workout class.
- Learn a new recipe using ingredients you already have.
- Go on a hike.
- Go book shopping at second-hand bookstores.
- Go on a drive and blast a kickass playlist.
Creative Solo Dates
Creating something with yourself is a fun way to connect with yourself. These solo date ideas allow you to express yourself and explore your creativity.
- Take a cooking or baking class.
- Book a Photoshop.
- Create a short film where you are the writer, producer, videographer, and play all the characters (or is this a me thing?)
- Sing, do comedy, or recite poetry on open mic night, then buy yourself your favorite drink.
- Taking a painting class.
- Go to a coffee shop, order a beverage, then write or draw.
- Decorate a cake.
- Make a scrapbook of your favorite memories.
- Make your own bookmarks.
- Go thrifting and style a full outfit in your head.
Mini Adventures
You do not have to travel far or plan anything extravagant to have an adventure with yourself. These mini adventures are small breaks from routine that add novelty and excitement to your everyday life.
- Try a new pilates or dance workout class.
- Go to 5 new coffee shops and try a new dessert in each coffee shop.
- Go wine tasting.
- Have a weekend getaway in a nearby city.
- Go to a water park.
- Go skydiving.
- Go to an aquarium or zoo.
- Visit a part of your city you’ve never been to before.
- Visit a local landmark you’ve never stopped at.
- Go to an arcade.
Luxurious Solo Date Ideas
Luxurious dates are about giving yourself the kind of care you would usually reserve for someone else.
- Take yourself out to a 5-star restaurant.
- Have a spa day and get all the treatments you desire.
- Go jewellery shopping.
- Spend an afternoon at a rooftop bar or lounge.
- Go to a concert.
- Stay at a boutique hotel for a night.
- Have a personal shopping day with a stylist who curates a full outfit for you.
- Book a private guided tour of a historic estate or castle.
- Book private golf or tennis lessons with a pro.
- Go on a cruise.
You are worth the effort, and you are worth the money some of these solo date ideas may require. You deserve to dress up and take yourself out, because you are the love of your own life. Nobody in your life deserves as much love from you as you.
Self-love is an ongoing process that you will continuously commit to for the rest of your life. And I highly recommend that you do because the return on investment is immaculate.
I love you, and I hope you love yourself.
Thank you for reading.
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